Love & Valentine's

This is in response to all the random messages that I have been about today:

As a 23 year old man, I have been in love once. As bitter as I may be sometimes, it was truly one of the best experiences of my life.

Believe me when I say I understand when people say they want to be in love (again). I would argue that the desire to love and be loved is one of the most basic human traits. I can understand people who become obsessed over it, but why does this have to come to to forefront of every February 14th?

In my opinion, people are very lucky to fall in love just once in their life. So it seems really weird to me that people choose to obsess over a fake holiday that does not apply to everyone.

Am I supposed to believe that everyone is in love on Valentine's Day? Of course not. So then I ask why all this obsession around this Hallmark Holiday? Why put this one day on a higher pedestal than it should be?

Valentine's Day is a normal day. There is nothing celestial about this day. We do not have an animalistic instinct to mate today or around today. The sun will rise, and the sun will set. Someone is born and someone dies. Life goes on.

Those who say Valentine's Day is here to remind you that you are single choose to let yourself be manipulated. People hug and kiss in public everyday. People carry gifts around all the time. Hell, its not that rare of a sight to see a woman carrying a bouquet of flowers. These sights are seen all the time. It is not just on Valentine's Day. Do you let yourself feel bad when this happens?

No, it is your choice to make yourself feel bad. Some choose to call it "Single's Awareness Day." I hear of people going out to dinner with their single friends and deciding that they want to go out. I ask, why are you throwing a pity party for yourself? If you have a weekly dinner with your friends, if you always go out on that day, then continue to do so, but why make an extra effort to make it more apparent to yourself that you are single. It is not the fault of those who are celebrating or those who are profiting off of Valentine's Day that you feel bad; it is your own for making yourself feel bad. If you are so utterly angry or bitter about being single today, why are you not every other day in the year? Why deviate from your normal life? The 14th of February is not really any much more different from the 13th or the 15th.

Those who treat Valentine's Day as a special day choose to do so themselves. Those who choose to celebrate it do so on their own accord. Those who choose to treat the day like it is some sort of deadline do so on their own accord.

And honestly, is not the premise of Valentine's Day flawed in itself? If you were in love, you do not need a day to celebrate it. I celebrated everyday I was in love; I tried to make everyday special in its own different way. I really did not need anything to remind me that I had to do something special to prove my love. For me, everyday was like Valentine's Day.

The small and useless thing that females get that brings so much happiness to them mean so little in the long run. I simply do not understand the obsession over them. And in the end, the reason you females want those gifts is for the opposite meaning of Valentine's Day. Gifts do not prove love and they cannot buy love; I can spend my fortune on a female and she does not have to fall in love with me. No, you females want gifts so you can show it off to others; to make others feel bad and, fuck, is that not what Valentine's Day is not about?

Those who feel bad today get no pity from me. I will not participate in your grand schemes to try to make yourself feel better. I plan on leaving work and going to the gym, like I always do on a Wednesday.

I apologize to all those who are separated from the one they love on this day, but just keep solace that they probably also miss you too.

No Valentine's Day will never been a special day for me. For me, Valentine's Day will always simply be just a reminder that my birthday is in exactly a week.